I was reading some opinions from parents on whether or not they found out the sex of their unborn baby when I stumbled upon this statement:
From Susan ~ We Had our first ultrasound a little too early, though the tech said “well it looks like a girl.” Because of complications later on, we found out for sure…yeah… it was a girl. We had already started calling her Kimberlee, so I would have felt as if I lost a child if it had been a boy.
Is it the bitter in me or is Susan totally shallow and clueless?
My son is not a leader, he’s a follower. He’s tentative about everything. Last night we went to the county fair and he was first in line on one of those “rides” that’s like a mini-obstacle course with rope ladders, kick-bags and wobbly bridges. He was first. By the second obstacle, he was last.
I remind you of this because last Thursday there was an incident at his day care. Krstn cares for 10 children including X. By the State’s regs, she is maxed out and quite busy.
She called Mr. DD at work to tell him that X kicked M-ali in the face and she just doesn’t know what to do with him. So Mr. DD picked him up and as punishment, he made him sit on a bucket at Mr. DD’s shop the entire afternoon.
I don’t know if M-ali was hurt, but once informed of the incident, her Mom picked up her and her five year old brother and took them to the grandmother’s house.
X feels terrible about it but it was no accident. They were sitting around on the floor playing and he didn’t want her to play. M-ali called him a name (poopie-poop or some such stupid thing) and X kicked out at her and his foot landed unfortunately on her face. X’s athletic skills – and lack thereof – convince me it was a one in a million shot.
Granted, I am probably making excuses for him. As his Mother, that’s my privelage.
M-ali’s Mother told Krstn that unless X leaves, she will pull her three children and take them elsewhere (she left her baby boy there last week).
While we understand M-ali’s position, and frankly we even suggested to Krstn that we know that she has to conduct a business and it’s wiser for her to keep the three and “fire” the one; what I am having a very difficult time with is that the person who really is to blame for this is Krstn herself.
Where was she when this happened?
She wasn’t there and all she can say is that she can’t be everywhere at once since she allows the older children to play in the basement while she keeps the babies upstairs on the main floor.
There have been other incidents in the past with M-ali as she is a balls-to-the-wall child with no fear. She’s agressive in play, physically and mentally. So is her older brother. Perhaps a coorelation to sibling play compared to only-child play? I don’t know. I just know that X had to have his buttons pushed several times and hard for him to have lashed out like that….but there’s no way of knowing.
When my husband called Krstn this weekend to see what she was thinking, she mentioned how M-ali’s Mom and I seem to “have issues”. Maybe we do (unfortunately, M-ali’s Mom is the ex-pregnant, co-worker….yeah, that sucks.), but whether or not we avoid each other at her house has no relevance on how Krstn runs her daycare.
I am angry that within four weeks of our agreement with Krstn running its natural course since she doesn’t take “school-age” children, which is when X hits kindergarten, we are having to find someplace else for him…with no apologies from her.
It makes me sick to think what she is saying about X to the other parents because I know what she has said about other children she has had “problems” with in the past.
X is a good child with a heart of gold and a gentle soul. And I don’t say that just because I am his Mother.